So once we start to address our lack of integrity with ourselves we can then clean up our messes with other people. Many of the lack of integrity issues are withholds. That is, the other person doesn’t even know most of the incidents where we have been out of integrity with them. And, when we are out of integrity with others we are always out of integrity with ourselves. Why is that you may question? Well, we simply broke our word, or we purposely held back our self expression knowing deep down that we are fearful of some type of reaction. It’s like living a big lie. Somebody does something. You say nothing or something inauthentic and keep your real self expression a secret. Great formula for an open and honest relationship huh? This type of communication is so damaging because there is no real communication. Just pent up resentment, fear, and stories that aren’t even real. We can be insane as human beings. Here’s the way out of the costume that hides the real you. Be vulnerable with the other person and express the ways you have been withholding from them. Take full responsibility and share what’s really been going on for you. Clean everything up. Restore integrity. And then keep your relationship present and clean so nothing is impeding your self expression. And magic will happen. You see, when we express our vulnerability and open up to how we’ve been hiding out and squelching our truth, it frees up the other person to do the same. And that my friends is one of the greatest gifts you will ever receive. But don’t have expectations, because this communication is for you not the other person. They will get what they get and respond whatever way they respond. However, you will be free and lighter. Now isn’t that priceless? Go ahead, do it!