Many of my teachers over the years have said that intimacy is in-to-me-see. It is the way of being that has us being vulnerable, open, honest, and authentic with ourselves and others. Sex however, is an expression of our sexuality and can be experienced many different ways by many different lifestyles. Intimacy is a key component in establishing meaningful connected relationships in many areas of life with anyone. Intimacy does not mean sex. Intimacy can lead to deeper Love and connection which can certainly open our hearts and enhance our experiences sexually with others. However, not all intimate experiences are meant to be sexual. It is important when we are becoming intimate with people, especially when attracted to someone, to communicate our intentions and honor each others limits and agreements with oneself and others. There is nothing wrong with becoming intimate and have beautiful lovemaking and sex with people. However, our word around agreements is important for any relationship to work. being in integrity is keeping and/or honoring our word. Some relationships form deeply around intimacy but never progress to sex because of agreements with another, ourselves, or it just doesn’t feel right. On the other hand, many couples could benefit from deeper levels of intimacy to improve their sex lives and forge a stronger bond with each other. What’s useful is to separate sex and intimacy so we can appreciate the different and unique experiences they provide. And then we can bring them together when appropriate, agreements are in alignment, and we are standing in our integrity taking 100% responsibility for what we are creating. And, depending on our lifestyle (heterosexual, bi-sexual, gay, lesbian, transgender, queer, intersex, or asexual). In addition, any lifestyle can have combinations of monogamy, polyamory, bdsm, open relationships, or swinging to name a few. More about lifestyles in my next blog. Suffice it to say, AGREEMENTS and integrity are critical for the success of any relationship!