The Cosmic Joke About Relationships

Hmmmm, this sounds interesting! No kidding, strong attraction to another human being is your unresolved childhood issues showing up as attraction. Really, WTF? We are meant to heal our childhood issues through our significant others. We would never do this unless we were drawn in by attraction. This is why I recommend waiting 6 months to a year before having sex. Sex makes us stupid, and, creates clouded vision with who the other person really is. How many of you have been in a relationship, have sex, are in la la land for about 6 months and then wake up to a different person than you thought you were involved with? This is natural. It’s called the honeymoon phase. If you keep getting into partnerships in this way, the majority of times you can count on pain, suffering, disillusionment, and blame. I’m here to share with you that this is not a good recipe for long term relationships filled with joy, trust, and happiness. Get to know your potential companion first before sex. Sex will hold us hostage and have us compromising our values and requirements just to stay in an unhealthy relationship! What do you want? I’m suggesting that you take your time getting to know someone (In Person as a friend) before taking the plunge. the stronger the attraction, the more intense your lessons will be from your incomplete childhood. I have been coaching relationships for 13 years, and, have always found this to be the case. More about patience, non negotiable requirements, and being true to yourself in my next blog.



About Rusty Stewart

My name is Rusty Stewart, Ph.D. and I am the founder of Personal Growth Alternatives LLC, a holistic healing center and reiki school located in Abington, PA.

One Response to The Cosmic Joke About Relationships

  1. Marcia September 26, 2013 at 12:43 am #

    Hi, Rusty,

    Thank you for this. I just told someone the other day that those butterflies in one’s stomach, that crazy feeling when someone rings our chimes, is mostly fear, just like when we have seen a bear, or are about to take a big risk. When we feel that, run, not into their arms, but in the other direction. Every time I felt that feeling, heartbreak and craziness was just around the corner. Unfortunately, our media depicts the craziness as forever after love. I guess there’s just no drama in taking one’s time with someone who is good for you.



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