Past Relationship Upchuck!

Alright, so your little voice is probably judging my title in some way, or wondering what the hell I am spewing about. (LOL!) Most of us have experienced something from a past relationship coming up, and it smells foul. Maybe it’s betrayal, or unavailability, perhaps the person was not in love with you, or maybe the person was just way to difficult. Whatever presents itself that reminds you of a past relationship that you are not complete with is yours to work through. Frequently it is not pretty. Just remember all of it is coming from your past, and that is your childhood ladies and gentlemen. Otherwise you would not be triggered. This has been a pattern that I have had to deal with a former lover for the past 13 months since the breakup. Each time I get in communication with people in my life that care and will hold me 100% accountable for the stories that I make up about the other person or myself. We are not our emotions! We are not our thoughts! We experience and have thoughts and emotions. What we do with them is our choice. Sometimes we need to grieve. Sometimes we need to empower ourselves and move on. Being in love and having the other person not be in love with us can be painful. I know. I have experienced that and it is no fun! And, I chose to stay in the relationship. That’s 100% my responsibility! I deserve better! And anything that happens with my former companion is really none of my business. I wish her well and forgive myself for staying in the relationship and beating myself up about it. I recommend you all do the same if there is anything that is incomplete from a former significant other. And don’t forget to deal and release the real issues that stem from childhood. That’s your little voice upchucking all over you and spewing untruths and stories. It’s your choice. What do want, happiness & responsibility or misery and victimhood? Choose from a place of empowerment, or let life continue to make your choices for you. Seems like a no brainer to me. Now clean all that slop up will ya?

About Rusty Stewart

My name is Rusty Stewart, Ph.D. and I am the founder of Personal Growth Alternatives LLC, a holistic healing center and reiki school located in Abington, PA.
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