Relationships are challenging in and of themselves. They can take a lot of work until we transform ourselves and our communication. Then relationships can occur with freedom and ease. However the freedom and ease can quickly disappear if we do not continue to be fully self expresses and stay in the space of transformation. One of the kinks in the hose when it comes to successful relationships is that little voice in our heads. What voice are you talking about? That voice. The funny thing is it isn’t even our voice. It’s a culmination of many voices from our past and childhood. And, the voice can react and say things that can truly damage relationships. The voice served us in childhood and helped us survive. However, that little voice does not serve us the same way as adults. It’s what keeps us constricted with fear and has us react or shutdown when we perceive fear that’s not actually present. I’m sure you have heard the saying, False Evidence Appearing Real. The key hear is to distinguish the voice for what it is and create some space to respond vs. react and say or do something we’ll regret later. This is not always easy, and, it’s a simple enough concept. In the next blog I will address some ways to quiet the voice and make choices that serve, further our growth and enhance our relationships.